forgiveness in a dark place
Forgiveness is the most painful yet beautiful piece of the puzzle that is the human experience.
Soul Keeping in Dementia
What I find intriguing is how the soul-identity of a person living with dementia is incrementally, imperceptibly transferred for safe keeping with loved ones. Personhood is conferred less and less by actual cognitive prowess and character and more and more through social bonds. This type of transcendence is completed when we pass on and leave behind memories, habits, recipes, fishing secrets, jokes and so many other ways of being. Like the imprinted seal on a ceasefire document, meaning continues in perpetuity beyond the physicality of paper, ink and wax. Dementia Friendly Chatter While it is impossible to be heard by everyone in … More
reflections during a pandemic
LOVE IN PRACTICE Learning to love in a new authentic way, especially someone you’re already used to loving, can at first feel like war. This makes sense. The old cemented family patterns, generational wounds, and pre-programmed behaviors are dying, killed off by the light of new growth and healing. Hence freedom is built on the backs of those sacrificed in battle. Except this time there is no enemy other than the fear that is leaving you and all those you are freeing. Drop all expectation and march gallantly into the unknown. Seek truth as if your life depended on it. … More
Finding Home
The things that make me feel safe and sound are mostly immaterial. Genuine conversations; freedom; music; being deeply understood. Physical objects rarely bring me comfort, but I do find myself fiercely protecting a short list of a few tangible tokens. Tasty, nutritious food; a balanced home; a distraction-free workspace; plants; unique pieces of art. Take these away from me for too long and I slowly crumble. Feeling vulnerable is strange for someone who foolishly considers himself impervious to life’s challenges. I’m often proven wrong in this arena, but my obstinate nature refuses to admit defeat — at least not until my fighting … More
